Walking through your day doing what you do and wham! Sudden detour, change in circumstance, door closed – or opened, for that matter, illness, job loss, death, child-birth, marriage, divorce, graduation. For good or for ill, you know your life has changed – permanently. It’s the stuff of movies and great books. That singular moment. Think Lauren Bacall or Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca. Or Edna Ferber’s Giant, Steinbeck’s East of Eden or Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird. Singular moments that define time.
I have found that in that moment of understanding, that turn-on-a-dime moment, that “Good Lord, this is real” moment; I always hear a rush of wind, leaves rustling, and wind-chimes tinkling, water splashing. My pulse rate slows, rather than the expected rise that comes with surprise. Everything seems to go to slow motion: my thoughts, my vision, the world around me, other peoples’ speech. Everything. Nature flashes like a billboard: pay attention, read the signs, I’m trying to tell you something.
It’s like the universe is giving me time to absorb what just happened. Time out of time to simply process what is happening and to come up with a coping strategy. Time to let my brain catch up. I don’t know why, but for me, that happens to the sounds of wind and rustling leaves and wind chimes and babbling brooks but it does. Could be because I love being outside. Could be because I feel closest to God when I’m outside. Could be because I feel closest to God outside, in my mountains, where the wind rarely lays down. The wind, the music of the creek outside my every room, the calls of birds and beasties, the rustling leaves in the trees, the moon that shines nightly on my pillow. And the stars, oh the stars.
In those most perfect moments, I realize that the calm won’t last forever and it’s time to get my act in gear. So grateful to have had that moment. Sure enough, the film breaks and does that clack, fwap, clack, fwap noise. I’ve left my time-warp and change is upon me. I fully understand that some changes are painful. That many are life-altering. I also know that some changes – even the painful ones, open new doors and/or windows. They provide interesting, mind-tweaking challenges, even as they block my retreat to the land of my well-known comfortable safety net.
And at that point I know that I’ve received a gift. A gift I need to roll around on, nuzzle up to, jump up and down on and wrap myself up in. I need to own it. I need to embrace it. I need to swallow it. I need to deal with the change; the anger, the wonder, the joy, the angst, or the pain. And then I need to put it all down, let it go, and claim my new normal.
Big painful gift, sometimes. But the Good Lord allowed me to take the time to introduce myself to today’s normal. I can choose to embrace that new normal and move on trusting that all will be well, or I can wallow in what is no longer reality. Pretty much an easy choice when you look at it with those eyes, isn’t it??